Ways to Distinguish Yourself #194 – Copy “being” rather than copying “Doing”

Ways to Distinguish Yourself #194 – Copy “being” rather than copying “Doing”

By Rajesh Setty on Sat 20 Sep 2008, 4:00 AM – 5 Comments

You aim to become like someone (may be a role model, hero or just someone that you aspire to become) and start copying what they are “doing”. You soon realize that you are not getting the results that they are getting.

Simple reason – you are not them.

You simply cannot recreate everything else that is “unique” to them like

– their history

– their background

– their mindset

– their teachers

– their relationships

– their support structure (family, friends, co-workers, mentors etc.)

– their outlook on life

– their perspective

– their knowledge

I can go on but the list is VERY long.

If you even want to have a chance at this, you have to start copying their “being” rather than focusing on their “doing”.

Being, in simple terms, is who they are. AND, not just what they do.

What they do may be effective because of who they are.

If you are trying to do what they do without being who they are, chances are – you won’t get the results they are getting.

Copying “being” is not easy. But who said that you would get a premium by doing something that’s VERY easy to do :)

Have a great weekend!


Note 1: For links to the other 193 entries in the “Distinguish yourself” series, please visit my Squidoo lens on the same topic:

Squidoo Lens: Distinguish yourself

Note 2: The first 25 entries in the series have been packaged in a ChangeThis manifesto that was published on September 07, 2005. You can download that manifesto here:

ChangeThis Manifesto: 25 Ways to Distinguish Yourself (PDF, Free)

Note 3: My latest manifesto on ChangeThis was published on August 6, 2008. This is a photographic manifesto featuring 15 of my mini sagas (stories in exactly 50 words). Here is the link:

ChangeThis Manifesto: Mini Sagas – Bite Sized Lessons for Life and Business (PDF, Free)


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5 Comments so far, Add Yours

Raj Char  on March 17th, 2009

Rajesh, This was one of the best distinction I got from your blog. I know there are better ones!

I always wanted to be someone else. Now, I know why I can’t be someone else other than me.

Now, I will try to be. Hopefully, It is not too late copy myself:-)

Rajesh Setty  on March 17th, 2009

Thanks Raj. On copying Jason Fried said it best – something like “It is better to be you because everybody else is taken.”



Raj Char  on March 17th, 2009

Now that you added your valuable points, I am thinking that all the successful people are happy being themselves so I guess it shows in their radiance. Its like having access to everything one ever wanted right there and right now. What else one can wish for! What do you think? Is this how you feel?

Rajesh Setty  on March 18th, 2009

Hi Raj,

I don’t want to say I have got everything I wanted but I never connected happiness to having everything I wanted.

Why put conditions for being happy?

I wrote a mini-saga on the topic a while ago. Here is the link:


Have a great day.



Raj Char  on March 18th, 2009

Nice one! But I don’t know why we do that.

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