Just being nice is NOT enough

Just being nice is NOT enough

By Rajesh Setty on Fri 11 Jul 2008, 10:24 AM – 3 Comments

It hurts to see many nice people struggle through life. Just like gravity doesn’t care who you are, the world doesn’t care how much money nice people make. The marketplace rewards value and it helps if that comes from a nice person.

If being nice is on one axis, having the power to make things happen is on the other axis. Being nice and having the power is the winning combination. Any other combination, a recipe for a short-term or a long-term failure.

Here is a Nice-Power matrix to consider

As you can see, if you have no power and you are not nice, you will be a “Clueless Loser” meaning, you don’t have a clue that you are losing or you know you are losing but have no clue why you are losing.

With pure power and no nicety, you will be an “Arrogant Loser” – meaning you may have a short-term win that will boost your arrogance even further until it leads to an eventual failure.

Being very nice but no power, you will be a “Charming Loser” – meaning people will love to be around you but won’t be willing to pay and engage you.

You need both – niceness and power. Only then you have an opportunity to “make it happen” in the short and long-term.


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3 Comments so far, Add Yours

pierrot  on July 11th, 2008

Hi Rajesh!

I think there`s no guarantee you will be alway loser or a winner, except one thing – your wish. If you must wish that happen :) And you are right about the niceness – one smile and gentle behavior can open you more doors than anything else…

usha  on December 28th, 2009

i rajesh,

to me this article was like an aha! moment. it was nice and powerful. it is so important to keep moving positively on both the axis and hv a balance there.

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