Why is it hard to handle criticism?

Why is it hard to handle criticism?

By Rajesh Setty on Sun 23 Oct 2005, 10:22 AM – 2 Comments

Yesterday I wrote about the need to handle criticism with grace. I got a few emails and one of my friends suggested something that resonated well with me.

When a person is criticized, typically its a “disapproval of something”

that the person has done. However, the person criticized can’t

dis-associate himself from something he has done. He thinks its a

“disapproval of him” and naturally he launches into defend or attack.

Something to think about!


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Anonymous  on October 24th, 2005

Great share Rajesh. I would agree that it’s hard to separate the event from the person. That’s why constant affirmation is so important if you’re a leader. “You’re a great person who made a mistake” is much easier to take than “Why do you keep screwing up?” You could say the same about parenting.

Anonymous  on October 25th, 2005

Thanks Phil.

I agree with you on the leadership and parenting. It also applies to teachers. I believe there is research to prove that one of the factors affecting the performance of a student is the “teacher’s expectation on the performance of the student”

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