Why is it hard to handle criticism?
By Rajesh Setty on Sun 23 Oct 2005, 10:22 AM – 2 Comments
Yesterday I wrote about the need to handle criticism with grace. I got a few emails and one of my friends suggested something that resonated well with me.
When a person is criticized, typically its a “disapproval of something”
that the person has done. However, the person criticized can’t
dis-associate himself from something he has done. He thinks its a
“disapproval of him” and naturally he launches into defend or attack.
Something to think about!
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Anonymous on October 25th, 2005
Thanks Phil.
I agree with you on the leadership and parenting. It also applies to teachers. I believe there is research to prove that one of the factors affecting the performance of a student is the “teacher’s expectation on the performance of the student”
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Anonymous on October 24th, 2005
Great share Rajesh. I would agree that it’s hard to separate the event from the person. That’s why constant affirmation is so important if you’re a leader. “You’re a great person who made a mistake” is much easier to take than “Why do you keep screwing up?” You could say the same about parenting.